A Good Kiss…

As he looked at her with those meadow-green eyes, her heart started to beat a little faster.  After dating for several weeks, she knew what this moment would hold.  Their first kiss.  He leaned down, looking at her to see if she would pull away, but she moved toward him ever so slightly. He brushed her lips with a soft, gentle kiss.  It was everything she imagined.  It was a moment she still vividly remembers, even after many years of marriage.  He still looks at her with that same glimmer in his eyes just before he kisses her.

Never lose the art of a good kiss with your mate.  A good kiss is so much more than technique, it’s a caress of affection that says my heart if still for you.  When you kiss your mate, hold that person firmly in your arms, and take your time to be in the moment with that person.  Too many couples rush in and out of their day with “granny kisses.”  Slow down, linger, love and let your sparkle shine for your mate.  It affirms the specialness of the bond that you share.

Dr. John Gottman, Ph.D., a psychologist specializing in marriage and family therapy states, “Be affectionate.  You can show affection in low-key subtle ways simply through quiet acts of tenderness: touching or holding hands while your watch TV, intertwining your feet while your read the Sunday paper together” (59).  Research indicates that couples that maintain their affection with one another survive the bumps of their relationship so much more gracefully.  Find out what type of affection is most meaningful to your mate, and make it a priority every day to shower them in it; then watch them glow.


Dianne Beard, MA

Pre-Licensed Counselor


Gottman, J. P. (1994). Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make yours Last. New York, N.Y. 10020: Fireside.

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